Coyote Too

@badbadgirlx recently posted a sexting story in response to @CelticFrog's latest MicroFantasy Monday Phrase. A lot of her blog followers are used to more vanilla posts, and someone got a little freaked at her use of "Daddy" and "little girl" in the story. Not really surprising.

I commented on it on her blog, but I wanted to carry that over here, because my (admittedly very hurried) Google search didn't turn up anything more definitive, and I'd like to see if anyone had any pointers to good (preferably short and to the point) articles that cover these sorts of issues when they come up.

In the meantime, here was my take on it, as posted in her comments section.

@Daddy: Daddy/little girl is not about incest, or often even about "age play". It's usually more about the the emotions those words elicit in a relationship. The couple may be trying to invoke the helplessness/trust/misbehavior of a "little girl" and the power/protection/correction of a "Daddy". Those are the words we use in our…

D/s culture replete with ways to punish a submissive, but what happens when the Master goes astray and hurts the submissive? Who punishes him?

The answer is quite simple. The Master punishes himself.

Whether the relationship is for a single scene or a life time. Whether it takes place in a club, a bedroom, or across the internet. Whether it's for show, for play, or fundamental Need. No matter what the time, the setting, or the reason; the Master took on a responsibility to care for the submissive. Her well-being becomes not just his responsibility, it becomes his well-being. Just as her pleasure becomes his pleasure, so her pain becomes his pain. You cannot have one without the other. So long as the relationship exists, the two are bound, not just together, but within each other. Pleasure and pain. Trust and responsibility. Master and submissive. One being.

When the Master screws up, both feel the pain. The submissive understands pain. So long as Trust remains, she has an outlet; she…